My wife recently passed after a very short illness, and I wanted a service that would capture her essence and personality. To me the service had to be something that could portray my wife as the person she was.
I reviewed different funeral directors, and within a few minutes of speaking to Mark I felt at ease with his manner, professionalism, and his understanding of my requirements.
Having attended funerals, but not having had to arrange one I was unsure of the process and what the order of service should contain. My wife did not want a traditional service with hymns and prayers. She wanted a service that would reflect her. Mark was able to guide and reassure me in terms of an alternative service.
During the arrangements, Ivor Thomas were in regular contact, supporting me as required. My wife’s service would involve a visual display of photographs and video, Mark explained that it would be hard, not just be selecting photographs but would be looking back at our history together. It was painful, but the children and I were able to reminisce and remember with fond memories.
As my wife was a bright and colourful person, it was her wish that everybody attending her funeral should be something yellow. On the day of the funeral, all members of Ivor Thomas wore yellow ties in respect to my wife. A simple gesture but demonstrated the personal touch from Mark and the team. In addition, at my request Mark was able to source an alternative style coffin, which when I discussed it with the children, all agreed ‘was mum’. Feedback since the funeral is that the service especially the coffin ‘was Deb’.
During the service the celebrant’s words depicted my wife as a person she was. The service had moments of tears and of laughter, and time to reflect and remember.
Recommend, may not be an appropriate word. However, nothing can ease the pain of a loved one passing. But the service helps us to remember them as the person they were. To me Ivor Thomas did just this.
Thank you all at Ivor Thomas Funerals.